WHEN ONE DOOR CLOSES, DOES ANOTHER ONE OPEN?

Hear are some of the questions I hear from clients just about every day now.  When are things going to start moving for me?  Why am I experiencing so much hardship?  Am I going to die?  Why am I feeling so strange?  How can I get out of the situation I'm in?

The questions may not be unusual for someone in my business but there really is something different about them because they are delivered with a level of anguish  that is growing stronger.
While I know the underlying cause is the major transformation that is still underway for all of us,  it is the resistance to change that makes it so challenging.  One way I approach this is to help people see that the "Why me?" syndrome doesn't help.  It is a waste of time.  Another is to really think about the meaning of that old saying, "When one door closes, another opens."

YOU created the life you are experiencing and like it or not, you are your own designer~~  God, if you want to look at it that way~~and if something isn't working anymore, you can change the script.  Maybe that's easy to say and difficult to put into practice, but it's the truth.

Hear are a few short examples:

One of my clients is finally leaving a very long and extremely unhappy marriage.  For many years she secretly saved money from her food budget.  Eventually, she had enough to buy her own apartment and make her exit.  Even with the money in hand, it took her awhile to make the change.  However, she has moved forward and doesn't plan to look back.

Another client, after feeling tortured by her husband almost all of her married life, is now divorcing him and running off with an old high school boy friend.  Taking action didn't happen over night, but she is making headway and running off without the money.  Giving up her youth and always miserable...wasn't worth going through the hastle.

I recently met with a holocaust survivor.  She married a Rabbi and freely admits her marriage was to have someone take care of her.  She divorced him because he treated her like a servant and ended it, only to work her way with another husband who is an abusive alcoholic just for a free trip with goodies.  She cries to me, screamed out loud. "Why me?"  I had to remind her of the courage it took to survive Nazi Germany and take her back to that terrible time to help her draw on that strength, put it into practice and change her current situation.  Told her to get an order of protection, and when he gives her more abuse...call 911.  Now she can have her house all to herself!!   lol

Not to mention the men I see having the power to change their own course as well and tell them that holding onto their money and walk away from heart wrenching situations, may be the way to go.  Sometimes..letting go and surrendering the stress, can give you a new lease of life.

While there are always solutions, they don't come out of living in fear.  Yes, there is a risk in walking away from an old term pattern, whether it's a marriage, job, friendship, etc.   You can choose to continue in an unhappy situation or tap your inner courage and strength and take a leap of faith.  There are no guarantees but life can change and shift on its own without doing anything about it.
Only you can decide if things are bad enough to take a chance.

One of the many interesting things about the major transformation we are all experiencing is that no one knows yet how this transformation itself will play out.  There is the big picture and it encompasses all of us;  and there is the smaller picture, the individual life, the patterns of behavior, what you attract, different approaches you have to making a change, things you have been working on since birth.  Who will you be when it's completed?  Where will you be?  What will you be doing?

If you feel the need to make changes, then consider what they may be.  Maybe now is the right time to think about a door that needs to be closed.  There is another opening ahead of you, even if you can't see it quite yet.
As we enter the last quarter of 2012~~and I know I have said this before~~what you have been feeling is only going to increase.  Don't let yourself get lost in it.  YES...when one door closes, another door does open.   Endings lead to new beginnings.